I have decided to sit back and bide my time, see what happens with my sister befor e I go poking my nose in.  I dropped her a line let her know I do care.  I also am moving this month so going over 900 miles to help her is difficult at best. I figure next week after all the gossip has trickled down I'll call my brother and find out if it's for sure and if anyone is intending to help her.  if not then I guess i'll take a bus and try to give her a hand..